The Pavlovian Effect Of Porn On Our Sex Lives & What To Do When You Find Your Lover’s Porn Stash

by • March 16, 2014 • LGBT, Neuroscience, PsychologyComments (0)4130

Nothing has had more of a profound influence on the sexual experience than online pornography.  Long gone are the days when a woman lifting her full-length skirt to show her lower leg would send men to the emergency room with heart palpitations.  And it seems like centuries ago when gay men’s fantasies were peaked by Tom of Finland illustrations.  In the modern age of free online porn there is nothing our sexual imaginations have not seen, and no scenario or sexual position that hasn’t been filmed and streamed by the world’s major porn sites.

But what impact has this exposure to online pornography had on the human sexual experience at-large?  An enormous one, explains renowned author Naomi Wolfe in her New York Magazine article entitled “The Porn Myth”.  Wolfe writes: “Pornography works in the most basic of ways on the brain: It is Pavlovian.  An orgasm is one of the biggest reinforcers imaginable.  If you associate orgasm with your wife, a kiss, a scent, a body, that is what, over time, will turn you on; if you open your focus to an endless stream of ever-more-transgressive images of cybersex slaves, that is what it will take to turn you on.  The ubiquity of sexual images does not free eros, but dilutes it.  Other cultures know this.  I am not advocating a return to the days of hiding female sexuality, but I am noting that the power and charge of sex are maintained when there is some sacredness to it, when it is not on tap all the time.”  You can read Wolfe’s article in full by visiting NYmag.com.

Regular watchers of online porn have been proven to have significantly lower needs for real-life sexual pleasure within a relationship.  As the porn viewer maximizes the pleasure centers of the brain, it results in the need to find new ways to satisfy his/her sexual needs — leading to more sex, more porn, and beyond — in order to experience the initial pleasure level once again.  This dead-end road leads to pleasure centers in the brain becoming overwhelmed and numbed.  You can read the full story by CLICKING HERE.

Furthermore, pornography’s effect on the sexual experience extends beyond the Pavlovian pleasure feedback loop created within one’s own brain.  What happens, for instance, when you discover your significant other has been getting most of his/her sexual gratification from the Internet?  It can lead to a major rough patch, often leading to a crippling power struggle and couples therapy.  As clinical therapist Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W., explains, the resulting negative dynamic is not 100% the fault of the person hooked on porn — it should be considered a combination of both.  You can read Taibbi’s full explanation by visiting PsychologyToday.com.

“The widespread use of internet porn is one of the fastest moving, most global experiments ever unconsciously conducted,” says Gary Wilson, the founder of YourBrainOnPorn.com.  The site arose in response to a growing demand for solid scientific information by heavy Internet erotica users experiencing perplexing, unexpected effects: escalation to more extreme material, concentration difficulties, sexual performance problems, radical changes in sexual tastes, social anxiety, irritability, inability to stop, and obsessive-compulsive symptoms.  You can watch Wilson’s TED Talk entitled “The Great Porn Experiment” by CLICKING HERE, and be sure to visit his online resource YourBrainOnPorn.com.

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